Because I don't follow the comics (except the spoilers that I can read on LJ) I don't know much about the kerfuffle.
Reading your entry was interesting; I'm glad you wrote this letter. (I like especially that part tried to rape Buffy. Xander tried to rape Buffy (The Pack). Angel killed her teacher and tortured Giles. Giles killed a human. Willow tried to end the world. Nobody is innocent in Jossverse. Your letter was a good 'summary' for me, not having read the forum. And not knowing the comics (and not planning too).