"Ironically, it was Joss who wrote: The big moments are gonna come. You can't help that. It's what you do afterwards that counts. That's when you find out who you are."
But the sad crux of the matter is we are rapidly discovering that what Whedon think as 'big moment' are far from being ours.

Ethan like Giles aren't so important because they're old, male and don't look good in skimpy clothes....*g*