I don't think you know what it is like to be so damaged in childhood that you can't receive love later in life. Faith isn't as completely wrecked as Dana, but she's closer to Dana than anyone else we encountered on the show. In any case, lots of people helped in all the ways you say, but given her damage Faith wasn't going to be able to recognize or accept the love in it. That's why I think her turn around was remarkable. And giving her props for it shouldn't be taken as an argument that she's the only one who did good things here.

I adore Spike. But he was loved in childhood and that gives him something that Faith doesn't have. But I totally agree that he received NO support from the Scoobies, and that makes his journey remarkable in its own way. They are both underdogs -- just underdogs in different ways.